"You Are Your Love Language"
One of my favorite compliments so far
This moment lives rent-free in my heart and mind.
We were in one of those long, deep conversations – the kind that brings you back into your body, into your truth, and into your heart – when they paused and casually said:
“You are your love language.”
I paused. Then asked them to say it again. I just had to hear it one more time!
I opened my Notes app and typed it in immediately because I didn’t want to forget how the moment made me feel.
Plus, I truly appreciated how simple, yet affirming it was.
And the truth is: that one sentence unlocked something in me.
I’ve always named words of affirmation and quality time as my top love languages.
But in that moment, I realized – I wasn’t just naming them. I had been living them since I can remember. They became my practice. Not something I waited for from someone else, but something I gave to myself and my loved ones. Daily. Intentionally. Quietly. Loudly. In private and in public.
This realization proved to me, once again, that embodiment is the true flex.
Not the captions. Not the aesthetics. Not the curated vulnerability.
But the quiet, sacred, behind-the-scenes ways I was learning to show up for me.
I learned that the real work is:
The consistency. The self-modeling. The micro-moments where I chose softness over shame, rest over hustle culture, and truth over performance.
It’s not always sexy. It doesn’t always look good on camera. But it’s honest. It’s healing, and it’s the Lord’s work in 3D.
Because if I am my love language, then I must remember:
✨ My time is valuable.
✨ My energy is sacred.
✨ My words carry weight.
✨ My needs are non-negotiable.
And this version of me? She’s finally listening to her deepest needs and not minimizing them.
A Refreshed Commitment to Self + Love
One of the most glaring commitments that shifted internally for me is this:
I’m no longer overextending myself to prove my love.
That old version of me? She was devoted, but depleted. She meant well, but disappeared in the process.
Now, I’m choosing differently. Not from guilt. Not from fear.
But from deep self-honoring.
From a place of deep trust that I deserve to receive the same kind of love I give so freely. This season – and beyond – I’m committed to walking my talk in all areas of my life.
To living what I teach.
To embodying what I believe.
To becoming my first soft place to land, no matter what life throws my way.
And I hope you commit to embodying your love languages and the love you wish to see in this world, too.
Because all of us truly deserve to receive love that is rooted, radiant, and real.
Embodiment is the True Flex
Choose the love language that feels most alive for you right now, and embody it this week in a way that feels natural and nourishing.
✨ Quality Time: schedule intentional solo time – no guilt, no distractions
✨ Words of Affirmation: speak or write loving truths to yourself each morning or night
✨ Acts of Service: do one thing that eases your load – nothing that drains you
✨ Physical Touch: ground yourself through touch – warm baths, soft textures, or self-massage
✨ Gifts: treat yourself to something special and meaningful
Remember, you don’t have to wait for someone else to love you well.
You get to be the love you’ve always needed. And as you continue to practice embodiment, everything else begins to align with that energy too.
Journal Prompts
A few reflections to sit with when you feel called:
What is your current love language? How are you embodying it?
Where have you abandoned yourself in love?
How can you become the love story you’ve been waiting for?
What stories need to be unlearned so you can fully meet your own needs?
Optional Resource: Haven’t taken the Love Language Quiz in a while? Here’s the link to refresh or re-explore: Love Language Quiz
With deep love,
Amita